Revised and Updated, with a New Chapter on Trauma and Anxiety, a List of Resources, and MoreOver 7 Million Copies SoldA cultural phenomenon that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life.As heard on Glennon Doyle’s We Can Do Hard Things podcast.Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions of readers toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins.Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one’s self-destructive behavior, you may be codependent––and you may find yourself in this book. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie’s own life and the lives of those she’s counseled, Codependent No More helps you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom, and happiness.This revised edition includes an all-new chapter on trauma and anxiety—subjects Beattie has long felt necessary to address within the context of codependency—making it even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago.PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. Read more

Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even themselves—in order to live life to the fullest.Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control?Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits?Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems?In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries. You'll learn the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life.This updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, answers the most common questions on the science behind establishing boundaries:Can I set limits and still be a loving person?What are legitimate boundaries?How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today! Read more

The instant New York Times bestsellerEnd the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself.Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?Licensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology--and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more. Read more

Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care.Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal. Read more

The #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter offers a blueprint for deepening your compassion, kindness, and gratitude so you can truly grow in harmony with another person and build stronger connections in all your relationships.“A beautiful offering from the heart, to the heart.”—Elizabeth Gilbert“Yung Pueblo holds a mirror to the relationships we have and offers clear directions to the relationships we desire.”—Simon Sinek“How to Love Better is destined to change your life.”—Lena Waithe“Everyone enters relationships with imperfections and negative patterns that block the flow of love, but when you embrace growth, the new harmony within you will flow into your relationship.”Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment.In How to Love Better, Yung Pueblo examines all aspects of relationships, from the rose-colored early days when you may be hesitant to show your full self, to the challenges that can arise without clear communication, to dealing with heartbreak and healing as you close a chapter of your life. The power of looking inward remains at the core of Yung Pueblo’s teachings. Ego and attachment can become barriers in a relationship, so the more self-aware you become, the more you can support both your partner and yourself.How to Love Better includes:• How to build harmony in a relationship• How to see each other’s perspective• How to find the right partner• How to heal from heartbreak• How to overcome attachment• How to form commitments• How to argueYung Pueblo’s insights on embracing change, building a foundation of honesty, and learning to listen selflessly will resonate regardless of where you are in your healing journey. And his unique combination of poetry, personal experience, and thoughtful advice will help you grow and strengthen all of your relationships. Read more

En este libro la autora ofrece un camino para que todas aquellas mujeres que aman demasiado puedan amarse a sí mismas y establezcan una relación de pareja sana, feliz y duradera.Cómo cambiar nuestra manera de amar y así dejar de sufrir.«Cuando estar enamorada significa sufrir, es que estamos amando demasiado. Cuando la mayoría de nuestras conversaciones con amigas íntimas son acerca de él, de sus problemas, ideas, acciones y sentimientos, cuando casi todas nuestras frases comienzan con "él...", es que estamos amando demasiado. Cuando disculpamos su mal humor, su indiferencia y sus desaires e intentamos justificarlo o incluso convertirnos en su terapeuta, es que estamos amando demasiado.»En este libro, del que ya se han vendido más de tres millones de ejemplares, Robin Norwood ayuda a las mujeres adictas a esta clase de amor a reconocer, comprender y cambiar su manera de amar.A través de historias reveladoras y de un programa de recuperación, ofrece un camino para que puedan amarse a sí mismas y establecer una relación de pareja sana, feliz y duradera.ENGLISH DESCRIPTIONThe #1 New York Times bestseller that asks: are you a woman who loves too much?Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This best-selling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are – but also gives a very specific programme for recovery from the disease of loving too much. Read more

Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is yes, someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD) - a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to:Make sense out of the chaosStand up for yourself and assert your needsDefuse arguments and conflictsProtect yourself and others from violent behavior Read more

An empowering new take on codependent behavior, revealing the underlying reasons we struggle with doing it all—and the path to recovery and freedom. Are you the person everyone comes to when they’re in a jam? Do you regularly accommodate others’ needs and preferences? Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don’t handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend’s latest crisis, and so on? If these questions resonate, the odds are good that you are one of the over-giving, over-extending individuals struggling with what psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole has termed high-functioning codependency (HFC). When you hear the word codependent, you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Terri certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviors that fell outside of the classic model. The ironic truth with HFC is that the more capable you are the more codependency doesn’t look like codependency. In Too Much, you’ll discover how to identify your HFC blueprint (or why you relate to others the way you do), the source of the attraction between codependents and narcissists, and how to cultivate emotional resiliency, practice real self-care, and much more. Each chapter includes tips, self-assessments, and exercises to help you transform how you see yourself and the world, avoid relapses, and stay centered in your own experience so that you can relate to others in a healthier way. “How you feel, what you think, what you want matters. In fact, those things need to matter to you the most,” writes Terri. “By choosing the path of healing and recovery, you are coming home to yourself.” Here is a book for making the shift “from too much to just right,” so you can live a life that’s full of authenticity, freedom, and joy. Read more

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Most people don't realize how much unresolved emotional pain they carry around. They don't know why they always feel depressed, anxious, victimized, or disappointed. They wonder why they keep making the same self-sabotaging impulsive decisions.These patterns often stem from their lost inner child, which carries a false narrative that has been on repeat since childhood. The hurt emotions resulting from childhood experiences of abuse, neglect, or trauma show up in adulthood as explosive anger, isolation, bad relationship choices, negative self-talk, feelings of being overwhelmed, being a people pleaser, and keeping others at arm's length.In Healing Your Lost Inner Child, Psychotherapist and Reiki master Robert Jackman takes you on a personal journey to explore unresolved wounds from your early life using the HEAL process for healing and embracing an authentic life. Through stories and exercises, this easy-to-understand book will encourage you to learn how to stop giving in to your wounded inner child's emotional pain frozen inside a snow globe within you. Each chapter gently takes you closer to this original wounding, so you can acknowledge and finally heal your pain. Move from being an impulsive reactor to an authentic, conscious creator in your life.The Healing Your Lost Inner Child Companion Workbook is also available to help you develop a deeper understanding of your relationships, codependency patterns and triggers, and create a self-nurturing plan.  Read more

"If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?""If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?""If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?"If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and feel like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If, in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too - because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex. From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following: What trauma bonding really is The seven stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding The five stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded - the cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause Breaking free from the traumatic bond This book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken. Read more

This groundbreaking, therapist-recommended book includes four books (workbooks and guides) that will teach you from start to finish, everything you need to know about Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD, as well as how to recover from each one of them.Book 1: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery✔️ Learn about different types of narcissists, their personalities, and how they behave so you can spot them.✔️ Discover what manipulation tactics narcissists and other toxic people practice to keep you close and how to break free.✔️ Learn how to transform your mindset so you have strength to remove yourself from the toxic relationship.✔️ Understand how to recover from the trauma caused by the relationship with a narcissist.✔️ Identify strategies to get on, and stay on, the recovery path and become mentally tough.✔️ Learn how to stop attracting narcissists to ensure any future relationships are healthy ones.✔️ And much, much more...Book 2: Gaslighting✓ Understand what gaslighting, love bombing and other tactics of abuse the narcissist uses.✓ Learn how to break free and recover from narcissistic abuse.✓ Read real-world scenarios and phrases between the narcissist and the victims in romantic relationships, friendships, families, the workplace, and more.✓ Identify the 10 stages of gaslighting which are used to gain control of the victim – how and why it works.✓ Understand simple yet effective strategies to protect yourself from being manipulated and abused.✓ Learn important ways to heal and move on in your relationships regardless of what has happened.✓ And much, much more...Book 3: Codependency Recovery Workbook✓ Investigate the 5 primary causes of codependency that may be the root of your symptoms and powerful strategies to deal with them.✓ Understand “The Giver” and “The Taker” roles and how they contribute to the unhealthy dynamic of the relationship.✓ Read common scenarios of codependent relationships and dialogues to help you understand what it looks like in real life.✓ Take the Codependency Quiz so you can look at your relationship and find codependent tendencies, change your behaviors, and build better relationships.✓ Learn what the 6 types of boundaries are, how to set them without feeling guilty, and how not to relapse.✓ Discover the 7-step plan and learn powerful strategies that will help you recover from being in a codependent relationship✓And much, much more…Book 4: Complex PTSD Workbook✔️ Learn what Complex PTSD is, where it comes from, and how it differs from PTSD.✔️ Discover examples and exercises designed to teach you effective strategies to uncover and overcome past traumatic events.✔️ Learn tools to help you rewire your mind so you can overcome the fear and pain that accompany distressing situations.✔️ Read insightful prompts and reflections to help you work through C-PTSD and regain emotional control.✔️ Learn how to stop avoidance techniques you are subconsciously using in daily life which only keep you from progressing.✔️ And much, much more…Recognizing the problem is the first step towards recovery, but you must take action, and you must take it now. This workbook and guide will help change your mindset so that you can set yourself free but only you can take action."As a Licensed Psychotherapist specializing in trauma, I’ve helped clients heal in various settings such as substance abuse treatment centers and even their homes...This book will help you understand what you’ve been through and help you lay the foundation for reclaiming your life. A true “must read” for any trauma survivor."-Trauma Psychotherapist John Boswell, MSW, LCSWStart the journey to recovery today. Click the "Buy Now" button to begin. Read more

Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest, and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This best-selling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much. Read more

When trying to share your feelings, does it end up in a fight more times than not? Do you want constructive discussions with your partner that lead to deeper connection and a healthier relationship?Most of us never learned how to effectively share our feelings or receive the feelings of our partner. The good news is that it’s a skill you can learn.Being in a relationship without knowing how to share your feelings and receive your partner’s feelings in useful ways is like jumping into a pool without knowing how to swim. You can flail around all you want, but it’s not going to keep you afloat for very long—you need to be able to move in any direction at will.Like swimming, knowing how to share your feelings and respond to your partner's feelings will move your relationship in the direction you want: toward more intimacy, closeness, connection, and trust.In Communicate Your Feelings (Without Starting a Fight), you’ll get:Ways to avoid escalation so you can be unafraid of a discussion spinning out of controlThe happiness and assurance that comes with knowing your relationship is heading in the right directionWays to respond to your partner’s feelings so you can gain their trust once again13 communication techniques so you can be confident approaching discussions with your partnerWays to clarify your thoughts and feelings, increasing the likelihood that your partner will understand youNow is the time to have a happier relationship, so begin applying these techniques today. Read more

An accessible, step-by-step resource for setting, communicating, and enforcing healthy boundaries at home, at work, and in lifeWe all want to have healthy boundaries. But what does that really mean – and what steps are needed to implement them in our daily lives? Sought-after therapist and relationship expert Nedra Glover Tawwab presents clear explanations and interactive exercises to help you gain insight and then put it into action. Filled with thought-provoking checklists, questions, writing prompts, and more, The Set Boundaries Workbook is a valuable tool for everyone who wants to speak up for what they want and need, and show up more authentically in the world. Read more

Break free from over-functioning, over-delivering, people-pleasing, and ignoring your own needs, so you can finally live the life you deserve!Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires, or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships.The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life.In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.Since becoming a boundary boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do nextHow your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign itPowerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to sayHow to manage “Boundary Destroyers” - including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalitiesWhere you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationshipsThis book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss. Read more

The groundbreaking bestseller on codependence—with more 750,000 copies sold—break the cycle, heal from past trauma, form fulfilling relationships, save your self-worth, and develop lasting, healthy habits and behavioral patternsIn Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody, internationally renowned expert on codependence and addiction recovery, decodes and identifies codependent thinking, emotions, and behavior and provides a proven roadmap to recovery.For anyone who has been in a toxic relationship, engages in self-sabotaging behaviors themselves, or simply wants to be a better partner, and person, Facing Codependence dives into the core of human behavior and allows readers to:·      End toxic patterns, including love addiction, narcissism, alcoholism, and substance abuse·      Heal from dysfunctional family dynamics and end the cycle of abuse once and for all·      Ditch anxious and avoidant attachment to form stable and secure relationships·      Rediscover your sense of purpose, self-worth, and reclaim your identity and independenceMellody simultaneously sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences. Unlearning behavioral patterns and easing the grip of trauma takes time and effort, but right here, right now, is where you start. Read more

Talking to your partner after they’ve cheated is undeniably one of the toughest conversations you’ll ever have with them. You’ll be bubbling over with a ton of emotions - anger, upset, and frustration. The cheating partner will also have their own emotions to deal with - dread, uncertainty, and the shame of their actions. The aftermath of cheating always leads to “The Conversation”, where the hurt party asks their partner all of the questions about the affair they've bottled up. The cheater will be asked to answer difficult questions and confess some hurtful things to their partner, which is easier said than done for both parties. Does this situation sound similar to yours?Although you may find yourself simmering with an abundance of questions for your partner, they don’t always come out the way you want or need them to; your anger and hurt take over, and what should be an open communication, turns into an argument. I was in the same situation not too long ago, and my rage and hurt would always get in the way of an open and honest discussion with my partner about his infidelity. This stopped me from being able to get the closure I needed so badly. Couple this with my emotions clouding my ability to know what questions to ask and how to ask them, I was in a cycle of heartache and confusion. This audiobook is for you if you’ve been cheated on and need answers. It’s also a way to find comfort in the knowledge that someone has been in the same position you’re in and has been through the same heartache as you’ve endured. Straight to the point, no fluff or filler, this book will aid you in getting the answers you need, help you rebuild honest communication with your partner, and inspire you to seek the respect you deserve.This book includes four parts:Questions To Ask Your Partner To Understand Their BehaviourQuestions To Ask To Rebuild Trust With Your PartnerQuestions To Ask A Cheating Partner Or Ex To Gain ClosureA Chapter For The Cheater Read more

"I love this version of myself that you brought out" is a journey through the intricate landscape of heartbreak and self-discovery. It's a collection of reflections and insights into the things that bind us to others and the very nature of holding on and letting go. The book delves into the complexities of love, heartbreak and the bittersweet nature of letting go. Read more

In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and further recovery. Read more